Women we make our own choices

So the other day I heard something that was so ridiculous it made we want to scream. Being single and a women in her thirties in some cultures is a sin, its a sign of failure! Obviously no man wants you, and your chances of having a child are falling day by day. As a parent of said child, your friends, families will be looking at you and thinking 'I wonder what is wrong with so and so's child' and finding all sorts of reasons why your daughter is a childless spinster. I've friends who been told by their parents not to buy a house, because a man wants to buy a home for you or an expensive car - because you don't want to scare him off.


Maybe they are right, being married to someone who thinks that way is better than being highly successful and spending your hard earned money as you please. All the time you put into studying, your career or business well you shouldn't be able to enjoy the fruits of that labour at all. However even though this is ridiculous its still not as preposterous as what I heard.


A guy was being blamed for 'time-wasting' basically staying in a relationship for a long period of time without it leading to an engagement ring of marriage certificate. Now you'll probably thinking why was that annoying, and why did it insense you? So here goes:


1. It makes a woman sound as if she has no choice in the matter, as grown adults we make choices. You cannot (unless kidnapped) chose to be somewhere you do not want to be.


2. No-one can waste your time. If you are in a relationship that doesn't seem to be heading where you want it to go then you need to move on. If you choose not to then you are either happy with how its going, or would prefer to be happier with the person than unhappy without them.
I'm sometimes tardy, but I hardly ever wait for others who are. Sorry I've got stuff to do I can't wait on you (ironic I know).


3. This is something that is only said to women - he was wasting your time, he took your best years etc etc. I personally believe if you want something in life you make plans to get it. Your boss won't promote you - you start applying elsewhere. You want to go on that holiday, buy that house, car etc - you start saving towards it.  You've been in a relationship for a few years and you are not on the same page. You turn the page and look for someone who is.


The only person at fault, to blame is the person who stayed.